• They point their foot towards you. Often we unconsciously point our feet towards what we want the most. If their foot is pointing at the door then you’ve blown it. Guide their attention back to something you think they might be interested in and see how they react.
• Smiling. It might sound obvious, but this is one of the surest signs of interest. If you’ve been talking to them in a bar or club and they’re still smiling then chances are good that you’ve a good chance (I did that on purpose by the way). It’s hard not to smile when you’re getting the attention of someone really good…
• Signs of submission. This is more of a sign of flirting body language that women do, but exposing the wrists or showing the neck are signs of submissiveness and means that they feel comfortable around you. Don’t blow it now. You’re doing well!
• Their pupils dilate. This is a sign of physical attraction that we can’t control. Somehow, our brains are telling us we’re smitten and open up the pupils to get a better look. Use caution on this one though. Sometimes it’s not suggestive body language, it could just be dark.
• Fingers pointing to their crotch. This might sound obvious, but fingers tucked into the belt can subtly point towards the crotch without the other person even realizing they’re doing it. People like to showcase their junk if they think they might get a chance to use it!
• They lean on one hand. Leaning on one hand is often a bad sign, but if the hand isn’t taking all of the weight and the index finger is pointing at the brain, this can be a sign of genuine interest (not necessarily romantic interest but it’s a good start).
• Touching. More-than-average physical touching (such as slapping you while they laugh (but not too hard)) is a good sign of interest. Also, when someone touches their hair or lips or neck, they are definitely sending out flirting body language.
• Staring. If someone’s staring at you then they’re either going to beat the crap out of you or they fancy you. To check if they’re staring check the time. If you see them do the same then you’re golden.
• Muscle tone. Interestingly if a woman or a man sees someone they like, the look of their muscles will tense mildly enhancing muscle tone and making them look healthier.

Things you can do to use your body language when flirting

Using your body language to flirt enables you to tell someone you’re interested without making it blatant. Here are some suggestions.

• Put your hand on the small of the back Do this when your target is at the bar to let them know you’re interested and to send them a rush of hormones.
• Make lingering eye contact Again this can cause them to secrete certain hormones that will make them feel attraction even if they weren’t to begin with. This does take a little practice and must be done with a slight smile on your face so you don’t seem like a creep or a stalker.
• Look them up and down. This might seem a little too “caveman” for your tastes, but the goal here is to let someone know you’re interested. This is a sure fire way to show interest and can work from a distance too. Don’t be embarrassed of your desires. Blatantly showing interest is something people are too afraid of doing anymore.
• Subtle touching. You too can subtly touch your interest to get the juices flowing. Start with the outside of the body: back, arms, shoulders to get them used to your presence. Don’t wait for a good moment, start breaking those boundaries and touch early and touch everyone to not seem sleazy. You might just be that kind of a person. And being that kind of a person opens up countless opportunities for you!

Practice, practice, practice

As with anything, the more you put conscious effort into thinking about body language and flirting signals, the better you get around the opposite sex and the better you get at reading people in general. It’s best to learn body language in the realm of relationships first, because often these are the most blatant ones to catch and interpret.

As you get better with spotting the flirting body language signs, you can move this knowledge into the business world and beyond. We are taught from a very young age to disregard our intuitions and “sixth sense” on picking up on what people are really saying. If you’d like a great general training guide on how to use body language in business and beyond, try Body Language – Secrets of Master Communicators featuring more than 11 hours of training from one of the world’s leading authorities on interpreting body language. It’s a complete A-Z guide to using body language to really get your point across.